Let Go of your Stresses!!!!

by Stephen

 

A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they'd be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: ”How heavy is this glass of water?”

 

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz. She replied, “The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn't change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”

 

She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.”

It's important to remember to let go of your stresses. As early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don't carry them through the evening and into the night. Remember to put the glass down!

 

 

 

 

How is your Work Performance????

Employee "A" in a company walked up to his manager and asked what my job is for the day?

•The manager took "A" to the bank of a river and asked him to cross the river and reach the other side of the bank.

•"A" completed this task successfully and reported back to the manager about the completion of the task assigned. The manager smiled and said "GOOD JOB". Next day Employee "B" reported to the same manager and asked him the job for the day. The manager assigned the same task as above to this person also.

•The Employee "B' before starting the task saw Employee "C" struggling in the river to reach the other side of the bank. He realised "C" has the same task.

 

•Now "B" not only crossed the river but also helped "C" to cross the river.

•"B" reported back to the manager and the manager  smiled and said "VERY GOOD JOB" The following  day Employee "Q" reported to the same manager and asked him the job for the day. The manager assigned the  same task again.

•Employee "Q" before starting the work did some home work and realised "A", "B" & "C" all has done this task before. He met them and understood how they performed.

•He realised that there is a need for a guide and training for doing this task.

•He sat first and wrote down the procedure for crossing the river, he documented the common mistakes people made, and tricks to do the task efficiently and effortlessly.

•Using the methodology he had written down he crossed the river and reported back to the manager along with documented procedure and training material.

•The manger said "Q" you have done an "EXCELLENT JOB".

 

The following day Employee "O' reported to the manager and asked him the job for the day. The manager assigned the same task again.

"O" studied the procedure written down by "Q" and sat and thought about the whole task.

He realised company is spending lot of money in getting this task completed. He decided not to cross the river, but sat and designed and implemented a bridge across the river and went back to his manager and said, "You no longer need to assign this task to any one".

The manager smiled and said "Outstanding job 'O'. I am very proud of you." What is the difference between A, B, Q & O???????? Many a times in life we get tasks to be done at home, at office, at play., Most of us end up doing what is expected out of us. Do we feel happy? Most probably yes. We would be often disappointed when the recognition is not meeting our expectation.

Let us compare ourselves with "B". Helping someone else the problem often improves our own skills. There is an old proverb (I do not know the author) "learn to teach and teach to learn". From a company point of view "B" has demonstrated much better skills than "A" since one more task for the company is completed.

 

 

"Q" created knowledge base for the team. More often than not, we do the task assigned to us without checking history. Learning from other's mistake is the best way to improve efficiency. This knowledge creation for the team is of immense help. Re-usability reduces cost there by increases productivity of the team. "Q" demonstrated good "team-player" skills, Now to the outstanding person, "O" made the task irrelevant; he created a Permanent Asset to the team.

If you notice B, Q and O all have demonstrated "team performance" over and above individual performance; they have also demonstrated a very invaluable characteristic known as "INITIATIVE".

Initiative pays of everywhere whether at work or at personal life. If you have initiative you will succeed. Initiative is a continual process and it never ends. This is because this year's achievement is next year's task. You cannot use the same success story every year.

 

The story provides an instance of performance, where as measurement needs to be spread across at least 6-12 months. Consequently performance should be consistent and evenly spread.

Out-of-Box thinkers are always premium and that is what everyone constantly looks out for. Initiative, Out-of-Box thinking and commitment are the stepping stone to success.

 

Initiative should be lifelong.

 

Think of out of the box.

 

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Best Friend

Today I found a friend,

Who knew everything I felt.

She knew my every weakness,

And the problems I've been dealt.

She understood my silence,

And listened to my dreams.

She listened to how I felt about life and love,

And knew what it all means.

I reached out to this friend

To show her that i care

To pull her close and let her know

How much I need her there

I went to hold her hand

To pull her a bit nearer

And realized that this perfect friend I found

Was nothing but my mirror

I commit mistakes and make her cry

I become a clown and make her laugh

Always try to give her all the happiness of the world

But always hurt her and she stays apart

Humans - The Unique Creatures on Earth

Humans are the gift of gods. The most beautiful thing made by god on earth. They were sent on earth to take care of the planet earth and build it and prosper it properly. Without humans nothing would be possible. This technology, this world to stay in, the landing on moon and many more things are achieved just because of mind and thinking of the humans. 

As there are many and many good things about human beings (us) as compared to it, there are equal bad things about us. We will discuss it in the latter half.

The sharpest of all the creatures are the human beings. The owner of the heaven (God) has given more advanced brains to us than compared to other animals living next to us. Even though we rely on animals for incase if any natural calamities occur. The god has distributed the power of intelligence to all the creatures on the earth. Like imagination, creativity has been gifted to human beings (us), sensation of smell to dogs, sharp vision to eagles and vultures and so on. This has been done so that all creatures are treated equal. If all these qualities had been given to human being than he would have ruled the world and there would be no specific or unique identity of any other creature and thus this would lead to domination and destruction or maybe one says ruling the universe.

As the finger print varies from person to person and no two individuals will have the same finger prints, the same logic applies to the human nature. No two humans (irrespective of sex) will have common nature and attitude towards the same decision making. Incase any two individuals have there are clash which takes place on the common agreement since the points kept in mind varies from time to time as a person goes deep inside the respective topic.

Human nature is one of those things that everybody talks about but no one can define precisely. 

The same philosophy can be applied in our professional life. Many of the employees take decisions on the perception they receive from their colleagues. This where they lack and their decision turn out to be incorrect or against the process which might in turn take their career to toss. 

Also the same perception is applied in the appraisal process. Superiors appraise their employees / subordinates on the perception they receive or develop either by receiving from other employees or on personal bias. So because of this perception, employees are always in loss and hence this perception of their superiors leads to high attrition. 

Our perception is the main cause for our behavior. We should change our perception and drive it in a positive manner with facts and figures and this will reflect in our behavior leading our life and other’s life in the positive way.

Also, humans play a major part in the process of communication. Whatever we say or hear is not always the fact. Facts are based on what we see or what we derive or come on conclusions. In the corporate world, due to lack of communication among the boss and the subordinates, the gap among them increases and hence the relationship always remains as a superior and subordinate. If we have to reduce this gap and be a friendly boss of our team, then we have to be open in the communication, be frank in the behavior and understand the ups and downs our team members face. By this we cannot only reduce the boss – subordinate gap but can also create a good and friendly working environment in the organization.

We humans are very dynamic and irresistible. We easily adapt to changes but at the same time fails to implement that changes in our system. Why are we so??? This is because we do not accept the facts and do implement what may be beneficial for us. We are selfish. But will our selfishness have a positive impact on others. Will it create a positive attitude of us towards others? Will it create a positive working environment both at our workplace and at our home? The answer is NO. Unless and until we do not change ourselves and change our thinking, we cannot make a good human being.

We have psychiatrists all over the world. They are called the experts towards changing the mindset of the humans. But why do they fail sometimes to change the attitude and thinking of the people. This is because how hard they try to change us; they will never succeed unless and until we do not take the initiative to adapt to the change.

In some Indian based organizations, there are employees who are working for almost two decades. These organizations also have young employees with them. When these young employees come in the organization and after evaluating the systems and process, they suggest for changes, it’s either the Management who does not accept the changes due to change in system and fear or its the employees who are working from last two decades who do not adhere or accept to the changes which are carried out. This is because of the negative approach / attitude of the old employees. This leads to the traditional working environment and hence the employees cannot change their mindset or adapt to the new changes, the organization though might grow to a large extent will not be able to actually grow because of their traditional systems. 

In today’s scenario, if an organization has to grow, it has to bring in the new systems and process by taking in confidence their employees and changing their attitude. Once the attitude of the employees is changed, the process and systems are automatically adhered and accepted in the rapid era of globalization.

If we need a change in the society, in our political system, in our working environment, in our process, in our professional career, we need to first change ourselves. If we change ourselves in terms of attitude, thinking, approach, behavior and according to the situation and time, we will never face any problems and we will be able to start acting proactively in our professional as well as in our personal lives.

    

Dreams

I don’t know who she is

Where had she been till now

She comes in my dreams

Every then and now

Why is she not been with me

I think of her so often

Since my first heartbeat

Making me feel she is near to me

I love the way she talks

I love her smile

I love the way she scolds me

Which makes my life

She makes my tears roll down often

With her words and care

She makes my heart skip a beat

With her gestures being fair

When I am with her

It seems that I am the luckiest

I always want to listen and talk to her

Because she is my dearest

Valentine Day

I remember the first day when we proposed each other

The fear of losing you

The day when we surrendered our heart to each other

It was the most memorable day for me and you.

I still cannot forget that day

The day when we celebrated our first Valentine

The smile on your face which took my heart away

That was the gift to me as a valentine.

The smile on your face after meeting me

The feelings for me expressed that day

The kiss you gave on my lips

It was the most memorable day for me

I will never forget you till my last breath

Because you stay close to my heart

I will always remember the days we have spent together

Because you are and will always remain my sweetheart